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We are living in a unique era of child rearing. No previous generation has ever been so child centered. I know firsthand just how focused family life can be on children's academic, enrichment, sports, and social activities.
So, how is it that educators are reporting that this generation of children present with both more anxiety and entitlement than any prior one? Why are elite, ivy league colleges complaining that students fall apart when they encounter a minor obstacle, like a glitch in their schedule?
Perhaps it is a negative byproduct of the culture of "helicopter parenting" that we are all familiar with. The instinct to be involved and protect our children comes from a healthy and loving place. Yet, allowing children to flail, and even fail at times, affords them opportunities to reflect, learn, and grow. Think about how many life lessons you have learned after encountering obstacles. The challenge is finding a balance that allows children to develop an appropriate level of autonomy and self-sufficiency while also being afforded opportunities, parental engagement, and protection.
I had the pleasure of hearing Dr. Wendy Mogel, author of
"The Blessing of a Skinned Knee"
speak at a conference. She tackled
this dilemma with humor and
wisdom. I highly recommend
her book.
Discussion Prompts:
Offer reflective guidance through discussions with children/teens that explore their experience with an adverse situation. Some examples of questions to guide the conversation are:
•What did you learn about yourself through this situation?
•What did you learn about others?
•Would you do the same/differently if you had the situation to do over?
•Listen for and reflect back feelings you are hearing or seeing
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